I have recently become involved in a meditation group on Google+, Wildmind, in which members are currently making their way through a book of mindfulness practices, How to Train a Wild Elephant: And Other Adventures in Mindfulness, by Jan Chozen Bays. A few weeks ago, our exercise was to use our non-dominant hand for some of the ordinary tasks that we do each day.
One evening, as I was eating dinner – spaghetti – with my non-dominant hand, I found myself using my dominant hand to push the short strands of pasta that would not twirl in the tines of my fork onto my fork. There are a number of ways that I could have thought about this observation, and what I said to myself was, “You know, I do this the other way round as well!” I took the experience as a reminder, then, that whether we are trying something new or doing something that we have done a thousand times before, the support of a helping hand can make a welcome difference in the experience for us.
Who, in your life, provides you with support as you challenge yourself to think in new ways, to experiment with “thought tonic” — perspectives that fuel you with positive, anabolic energy, and so ease your anxious thinking, boost your confidence? Certain kinds of relationships and conversations make a difference! If you would like more support, whom might you ask — a friend, family member, romantic partner, spiritual mentor, counselor, coach, or some combination? Who are people to whom you might offer a helping hand?
“We are each of us angels with only one wing, and we can only fly by embracing one another.” – Luciano de Crescenzo
For more reflections on anxious thinking, and ways in which we can respond for a greater sense of calm and confidence, see other Thought Tonic posts by Scott Burns Kahler, MA, LMFT, CPC, ELI-MP; you can follow this blog via e-mail, Google+, Facebook, Tumblr, Twitter, or RSS feed.