Are You “Shoulding” on Yourself?
Feeling stuck? Sometimes we get in our own way by thinking that we should take one particular path to reach our goal. Stop “shoulding” on yourself!
Scott Kahler (he/him) is the founder of Thought Tonic, a resource for ideas to refresh our thinking when we're feeling stuck or stymied by worries, fear, or self-criticism, so that we can move forward in our lives with greater calm, courage, and confidence.
Feeling stuck? Sometimes we get in our own way by thinking that we should take one particular path to reach our goal. Stop “shoulding” on yourself!
Worried about worst-case scenarios? Swat catastrophic thinking on the nose and stop it in its tracks. Live with calm, courage, and confidence!
Looking to start a healthy, new habit? Need support for your intentions and motivation? Here are four thoughts, or affirmations, to help you reach your goal.
Use the power of thinking differently to sidestep your inner critic and declare independence from anxiety.
Help yourself reach your goals and resolutions in the new year with anabolic thinking instead of catabolic thinking. The way you think may make a difference!
We usually think about anxiety as a burden. What if we were able to think about it as a gift? What would this shift in thought help make possible for us?
Struggling with anxiety? Feeling stressed? Think Thanksgiving all year round, and shift your perspective through practicing gratitude.
When we expose our negative core beliefs to the light of day — become aware of them, identify them, and challenge them — they begin to lose their power.
When we believe that one interpretation is the only possible “right” explanation, we close ourselves off from other options that may be helpful.
Some thoughts and beliefs are helpful to us — they expand what is possible for us; others can limit our view, and so our experiences of life.