Bring Your Relationship into Focus with Couples Counseling
In couples counseling, I specialize in helping partners who identify themselves as being stuck in ways of thinking, talking, and behaving that aren’t working well for the relationship. For these couples, the ways of thinking, talking, and behaving that aren’t working well are frequently related to issues of anxiety, worry, and self-esteem in the relationship. I help these couples identify, define, and practice new ways of thinking, talking, and behaving that serve their relationship better, so that they can experience a sense of improved communication and stronger connection. If you’re looking for information about individual therapy for anxiety, worry, and self-esteem, please see my Individual Therapy page.
You may be interested in couples counseling if
- You are looking for support for your relationship during a time of transition that may prompt anxiety, worry, or issues with self-esteem, e.g., getting married, buying a home, having a child, going back to school, changing careers, separating/getting a divorce, etc.
- You are interested in communicating with each other in ways that work better for your relationship.
- You want to re-establish your sense of connection and enjoyment with each other.
- You want to develop tools and strategies for navigating tension and reducing conflict, as well as for responding more effectively to anxiety, worry, or issues with self-esteem in your relationship.
- You are looking to maximize and build on what’s currently going well in your relationship.
In my collaborative, coaching-influenced approach to couples counseling, I facilitate conversations with clients in which they have the opportunity to identify and define what they want in their relationship instead of the anxiety and stress, tension and conflict, and pain of feeling overwhelmed and stuck that they may currently be experiencing. We explore the habits of thought, behavior, and other blocks that they see as getting in their way, and when there are exceptions. I then partner with couples in confidence-building conversations about how they want to respond to the challenges that they face, and what they want learn from the times that things go well. I want to help them get more of what they want together, and less of what they don’t. Finally, I talk with clients about how they want to use their time with me to support the plans for change that they develop, and about how they want to incorporate the successes that they experience into their relationship — for results that last. In my approach, I often use ideas from various models of couples counseling, including the Gottman Method, Emotionally Focused Therapy, and Imago Therapy, as well as from cognitive behavioral therapy for anxiety and mindfulness practices, including meditation.
I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in Indiana and a PhD candidate in Marriage and Family Therapy through the online doctoral program at the University of Louisiana at Monroe. I have been in a relationship I treasure (and through which I have learned a great deal!) for the past 16 years. You can learn more about me in the About section of this website.
At Thought Tonic, LLC, we value and honor diversity, and welcome the opportunity to work with clients regardless of race or ethnicity, religion, gender or gender identity, sexual orientation, economic status, physical or mental special needs or challenges, or other aspects of our uniqueness as human beings.